I truly wanted to do what I felt was God’s will, but I also really didn’t want to give up the relationship.

It wasn’t until I was fully ready to obey God’s leading, that the answer came.

In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.

Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear. It’s not easy to break up with someone that you have grown close to.

“No, this is not the one for you.” After that I made the difficult decision to break up with the guy. But I’m convinced it is much less hurtful than spending your life being miserable in a marriage.

I ran down the partial list in my head and realized they were all there. As I began to observe his life and how he interacted with others, as well as how wonderfully he always treated me, I decided that there could really be something here.

As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. And now, after nearly four years of marriage I am so glad I followed God’s leading.

Later on, when I prayed about the possibility of marriage, God answered that prayer clearly too. It’s not that my husband and I never disagree, or that we do not get on each other’s nerves periodically, but married life is so much simpler when you know that this is the person that God led you to.

With that in mind, we know God will see us through whatever difficulties we face in the future.I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage.I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me. It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it.Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one.I wouldn’t even consider dating again until I had sought His will about the person and the relationship.I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.