Whether you’re looking to keep a healthy relationship strong or repair a relationship on the rocks, these tips can help you build a caring and lasting union.

In essence, the sensation of feeling loved is nature's antidote to stress.

There is no quicker or more effective way to override stress than with face-to-face communication with someone who makes you feel understood, safe, and valued.

What you do with these messages, however, is a choice.

As long as you are connecting emotionally, you can empathize with your partner and work through whatever problems you’re facing.

This relationship with your primary caretaker may also have influenced how comfortable (or uncomfortable) you feel with emotions—your own and other people’s.

Traditional relationship advice often boils down to tips such as to fight fair, avoid taking out your problems on your partner, and to expect ups and downs.

While this is good advice, it doesn't take into account how negative early life experiences can shape our views of love and relationships.

The first step to improving your relationship is to understand why the experience of feeling loved is so important to your brain and nervous system, as well as your heart. When you feel loved by someone, your brain and nervous system become more relaxed, function more efficiently, and you feel happier and healthier.

You fall in love looking at and listening to each other.

If you continue to look and listen in the same attentive ways, you can sustain the falling in love experience over the long term.

So much of our communication is transmitted by what we don’t say.