We would chat with each other online virtually every day while I was in college, and even after I graduated. Before long the site gave me a listing of potential Jewish candidates.

Though I was excited by these possibilities at first, the resulting dates could best be compared to episodes.

I am interested to know what you think of Chinese/Asian sexual relationships and whether it is in fact normal for the sex to be so … I think this is unlikely and I think it is simply that my guy for whatever reason is just totally clueless.

But can any generalisations be made on this subject? Still, while I’ve experienced the best of times in bed with Chinese men, I’m willing to admit I’ve had my worst of times too.

23, 2009, on the shores of Lake Winnipesaukee in New Hampshire. *** Soon after my bar mitzvah, just as I was discovering my interest in the opposite sex, I began to be bombarded with information about intermarriage—about how one in every two Jewish people would marry a non-Jew and how more than half of the children of those unions would not be raised Jewish.

But as I fell in love with her, she fell in love with me—and with my Judaism as well.

But even while my relationships with non-Jewish girls fizzled, I still didn’t have any other options.

Jewish girls often were interested in Jewish guys—many of these girls ended up dating and even marrying Jews; they just weren’t interested in dating high-pressure, community-survival minded, intense, and awkward me. While I was at school, I joined an online discussion forum where I began to chat with a non-Jewish girl named Alicia.

Unlike me, she hadn’t dreamed of meeting someone Jewish and having a Jewish wedding.

I was only able to relax around non-Jewish women, because I didn’t feel the same pressure; that’s how I met, and fell in love with, my wife.

(I will say he turned out to be a fantastic lover, despite this story he told me).