I want you to talk to your inner circle about all of this because you both need support. Thoughts on her telling her community and him telling his parents?

He said he never intended for it to go anywhere, though he did meet one of the women once. When I first found out, I asked him to not touch anything on his profile until I had time to think about it. (I am not religious.) It's been two months since I found out and he hasn't done it yet.

And when I finally decided a couple of days later that I needed to go through the site and find out the extent of his betrayal, I found that he had changed some things to tone down what he had done. He is seeing a psychiatrist and telling her his life story so that's more a shoulder to whine and cry on than someone who will hold him accountable for what he did.

Then watch how quickly other quality people who also put in the same type of effort are drawn to you!

I hear complaints from people all the time regarding the quality of users they're hearing from, or the fact that they're rarely hearing from anyone at all, and without fail, each time I have checked out that person's profile, it's a train wreck!

So get off to a fresh start by revamping your existing profile or by signing up for the first time with a great new profile.

2) Don't share any personal information until you've exchanged at least four to five meaningful emails within the original site.That eroded my trust further because he had promised he wouldn't change anything on the site. Shall we live together and find a way to make this bearable or should I move on?Am I right in insisting that he tell his parents or at least someone who will hold him accountable?It frustrated me terribly in the beginning, but I learned to live with it because I thought everything else was perfect.He was thoughtful, helpful, always remembered anniversaries, and always had something special planned. I don't want my kids to grow up in a broken family, and I am certain I don't want to remarry or have any other men in my life.The trick is in sifting out the diamonds from the ruffians!