The cruel assumption was that for our light-skinned counterparts, life is filled with rainbows, freebies, and a shitload of opportunity.The idea is that white privilege can be extended to our light-skinned counterparts and that they do not face the same extent of important black issues such as police brutality or less opportunity for professional growth.

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In reality, light-skinned people face additional prejudices that challenge their authenticity in the black community.

Colorism paints light-skinned men as being soft, effeminate, and snooty — an unfounded stereotype that has run rampant on the Internet.

During the summers in my tween years, I would pile on several layers of SPF and avoid the sun as if vitamin D was a poison that would inevitably kill me.

While my classmates laid out in the sun, desperately trying to bronze their bodies, I found myself trying to do the opposite.

Once my eyes were open to a world of colorism outside the black community, thanks to online dating, it was incredibly hard not to notice the colorism within my community.

Since I opened my eyes to colorism that constantly surrounds me, I've learned these five truths.

But, though colorism is one of the worst types of discrimination, it in itself does not discriminate.

It exists everywhere, in all cultures, and in all races.

As I looked through the long list of acceptable ethnicities on a potential mate's profile, my heart would sink when my race was left off his list of racial preferences.