Most Christians who take their faith seriously aren’t necessarily theologians.

These are general tips, so they should be valuable for all Christians: Catholic, Methodist, Orthodox, Baptist, Vineyard, Mormon, non-denominational, etc. Sorry to shatter your illusions of a “nice guy” hero. But, do so in a way that is loving and straightforward like Jesus. You’ve likely heard names like Paul, Augustine, Thomas Aquinas, Martin Luther, John Wesley, Roman Catholic Pope John Paul II, and evangelical pastor Billy Graham.

Jesus was a confident, assertive leader who spoke his mind and challenged authority. They built great reputations and had amazing accomplishments that furthered their faith (and the faith of others). Just being a good Christian isn’t going to automatically get you dates with Christian women (or any woman). You’re going to have to be high value to get beautiful women to like you. Look at many religious leaders and the attention they receive.

He was loving and generous, but he wasn’t a squishy “nice” guy. So, find a way to be an excellent leader in your church or community. Famous pastors and other Christian leaders (like Joel Osteen) are wildly popular.

He stood up to the religious leaders of his time, rebuked his followers when necessary (which was often), and even got aggressive with the money changers in the Temple. Pope John Paul II, for example, was called the rock star pope among Catholics.

And, they did it because they didn’t like the secular options and hoped their faith tradition could provide them with unique insights.

But, the Christian dating advice for men was, looking back, pretty terrible. Their wisdom usually centered on tips such as: treat women like queens, suppress all natural urges, and be a nice guy.Bette Davis once said that getting old is not for sissies.Well, many women would argue that the same comment applies to dating after 60.The vast majority of Christians I’ve talked to over the years fit this profile (and I’ve talked to thousands). So, if you are really into your faith and that’s all you can talk about, you’re going to have very little luck with most women. If your church is small, consider finding another one.When you go on dates, even if you know the person is a Christian, don’t assume that’s going to be your only conversation topic. Some people are more private about their faith or just have other interests. Go to Bible studies, join groups, go to larger events like multi-church or diocesan concerts and gatherings, etc.If I had a dollar for every Christian girl who dated a bay boy I’d be wealthy.