A person has made a successful transition to adulthood when she has learned to provide food, water, and shelter for herself.

By the same token, she hasn’t fully matured until she has also learned to provide emotional energy for herself.

(Think Michael Scott on “The Office.”) It feels good when everyone laughs at your joke, and an insecure person craves this sort of attention.

The unfortunate consequence is an uncomfortable environment and an insensitivity to others.

Another coping mechanism for insecurity is constant joking.

While a sense of humor is almost necessary for emotional health, the excessive joker doesn’t seem to know the limits of appropriateness.

Quality relationships have been found to be a better indicator of good health than smoking status, weight, or genetics.

Even though we can’t quantify it, this emotional energy is a very real and important part of our lives.Extreme insecurity is usually marked by an obsession with gaining the approval of other people.This level of self-doubt is extremely destructive to a person’s life and is often the root of almost all their problems.Here are some common signs that indicate insecurity: Insecure people tend to be very sensitive to critique and respond with defensiveness.They aren’t comfortable enough with themselves to accept that they might be flawed. They’re open to hearing about ways they might improve.More specifically, secure people find validation from within; while insecure people attempt to find validation from sources outside themselves.