I told him that to my knowledge I had never spread the virus to anyone else, and that I was very careful.

I had always insisted on using condoms, which can reduce the risk of transmission.

I didn't date for awhile, but inevitably, I met someone.

I held off on sex for as long as I could, but it got more and more difficult.

There are dozens of web sites that provide online support and information for people with herpes.

Many feature chat rooms, bulletin boards, treatment information, personal ads, and social groups around the world.

The nurse who examined me revealed that she had herpes and said it was no big deal.

She had been free of outbreaks for 12 years, and the same might be the case for me, she said.My selling point, however, was telling him that approximately one in four people has herpes and, statistically speaking, he undoubtedly had slept with someone who had herpes. He thought about that for a minute and then realized he might not know.He said he would know if he had been with someone who had herpes. In the end, instead of rejecting me, he chose to continue our relationship. But after we had sex, he would always wash himself like a doctor scrubbing down for an operation.A friend of mine had recently married a guy she met on the Web -- proving that not every Internet date is a psycho -- so I gave it a try.I met dozens of electronic pen pals and eventually went on several dates.A high school friend and I wound up taking our friendship a little further, and 20 seconds into the act that would change my life forever, he stopped.