If you don’t act because you think it is too hard, realize that, in a way, it is the same thing your daughter is doing.

She isn’t acting to change her situation because it is too difficult and uncomfortable for her to try to work.

If you’re not in agreement, it will not work at all.

It’s very hard for a geek and an introvert person to approach a girl/boy and ask him/her to go on a date.

This is more common than you think, but that doesn’t make it right. When your daughter was young, you undoubtedly had to say no to her at times about something because you knew it was for her own good.

In the same way, you may have to do some uncomfortable things for her own good now.

Like with so many relationship issues, solving this problem is a 2 way street.

Both parties are afraid to do anything because it is uncomfortable and difficult to do.

I just don’t know how to motivate her to start taking responsibility… Jill: First, we are imperfect parents raising imperfect kids in an imperfect world. I say this so you won’t think I am judging you or your situation.

I am only trying to get you to look at things in a different way, to look at things honestly and to see what your options are.

If you don’t act to correct your situation, it is because it is too hard and uncomfortable too. If you don’t act now, you may need to plan on supporting her, her children and someday maybe a husband for the rest of their lives, just like the parents of the 55 year old man I mentioned at first.

Adult children living at home and chronically depending on mom and dad generally don’t change unless they’re forced to do so.

Second, you are not alone wondering what to do when adult children won’t leave home.