Then, just as the silence had stretched to the point of becoming awkward, he would reel himself back in from his mental escape hatch and say something witty.He seemed to be toying with me, but since I was so out of practice, I couldn't be certain.I go out with single dads and childless men alike, and some of the latter admit (while others appear) to be uncertain about the logistics of dating single moms. Of course you want to know when she is free, if she has the kids all the time and whether the dad is involved. Commit this list to memory and never ever utter a single one of them.

If she prefers not to go out when her kids are home, or doesn’t like to hire a babysitter on school nights, she’ll tell you. If you’re out and she is paying for a sitter it is really nice if you get the check. Which you may be – but if you ask too fast, she will know.

If you don’t ask her out — no matter how innocuous or considerate the reason — she will assume you don’t want to see her. Leave the ask to the last minute, she has to scramble to find a sitter and that’s really uncool. This shows interest in one of the most important things in her life. Sounds cliche’, but I always appreciate it when a guy goes on about how much he adores his niece, or spends time with a friend’s baby. This isn’t necessary, and especially after you have been involved for a while you will likely sort out the who-pays-when conundrum. But she wants to feel like you’re interested in her in every part of her womanhood — including motherhood. If it has been more than a few months, or things get very serious very quickly, and she hasn’t brought up introducing the kids, bring it up.

The crowd was a mix of college guys and young professionals. And when the topic of my work came up, I told a small group of guys that I was working on an interesting article that required me to tap real-life guys for their opinions on dating single moms. I would absolutely go on a date with a single mom and see where it could lead.

I don’t have kids, but I want kids, so if she already has one or two, it would be a bonus.

Plus, it tells her (and any other woman, for that matter) that she was your Plan B for the evening. But if you really want to see her, give her plenty of time to sort out her schedule. In fact, if you DON’T appear interested in her family she’ll think that you’re not into kids. When a guy laughs at my funny-kid story, or is sympathetic about my mom worries, I’m in. But if you tend to take turns picking up the bill, but she sometimes rearranges her life to get out of the house and pays for a babysitter so she can spend time with you, acknowledge that. Know that when she invites you over, it is more work for her than when you invite her over.

Yes, moms are really efficient and they’re used to doing a lot of cooking and cleaning.

But there are some things that you just do not say to a single mom on a first date, assuming you’re angling for a second. “That’s great your mom lives in town so you can leave your kids with her on weekends.” 2.

“I am really loving this time of my life since my kids went away to college.” 3.

It would be a lie to say I didn't have any dating skills.

Like most young women, I'd had plenty of dates that never went anywhere, and some memorable ones that eventually blossomed into relationships.

In my experience, men are often more skilled (or at least faster) at getting back in the game.